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Item Upon - Communication: Feeling Whole Again by Reaffirming What You are Truly Feeling
The votes were flooding in more and more each day to the online think tank survey, as you might have guessed Global Warming and Al Qaeda were both big on the chart. But looking through the data we saw more and more fears such as; Fear of Government; Survey Said, it ranks 7 on the list of the biggest fears of Americans.One survey participant stated that both parties perpetuated this fear for him; government getting bigger and exerting more control. He stated that most people did not even bother to check the voting records of their Congressmen. Worse he said many of the bills are miss named and have so much pork in them it is hard to call them by their actual names.So in essence the respondents fear is very real and something all Americans should be concerned with. Fear that our elected representatives will get to Washington DC and then forget about
Ah, the teenage years. Well, when the mother and son sat down in my office and talked, the mother revealed her need to be more a part of her son’s world and that with him growing up it appeared that he did not need her as he once did. She explained that she missed spending time with him and wanted to be able to take in a movie or play Play Station games as they once did before the school season started and his relationships began to build once again with his peers. The son stated that with all the homework that was being given, after he finished his schoolwork all he wanted to do was go to his room and read and watch a little TV before he went to sleep. In reality, he missed having fun with his Mom and siblings as much as his Mom missed spending those q
Overtraining has many definitions and so far I haven’t found a consistent one that I am happy with. I would define it as the state when your workout to rest ratio no longer allows you to recover and perform to your previous level. Another way of looking at it is under conditioning.Everyone has a conditioning level specific to what they do on a day to day basis. For example, if I workout 1 hour per day 6 days per week, it would stand to reason that I could continue doing this level of work for an indefinite amount of time with no real adverse effects. If another person who only workouts 1 hour per week, suddenly tried to match my workout they might find themselves sore, possibly injured, and lose some of their motivation to train because it is too hard and they aren’t recovering fast enough.For them this would be overtraining, for me it would be a
Digging a little deeper, how many times have we experienced a range of emotions from unhappiness, disgust, anger, crazed yelling, quietness to tears and sleepless nights only to face the daylight without so much as a resolution or honest conversation with the person you love regarding issues that are clearly bothering you. Instead of feeling better, you feel out of touch with yourself, the world, your day and the person you love.
Sadly enough, I have watched people experience these range of feelings that take many hours or days for them to overcome; in some cases, a week or more. Stubborness, refusing to “give in” to “weakness”, there is a period of loss time, precious time, before reconciliation and understanding occurs so that a re-connection can be made and the relationship you cherish is ignited once again.
Let me reach out to you now and state that this simply does not have to occur. At the very core of who we are, we know we are emotional human beings who feel every imaginable feeling... we feel. I can smile a bit here because I have, not too long ago, told my husband this. We feel happiness, joy, anger, love, passion, sadness, discomfort, contentment... we feel. But when the wheel starts turning and you find you are going in a direction that is not being recovered quickly... the shadows cast upon you have turned from grey to black with no looking back…it’s time to put those emotions in check with the reality of what you are truly experiencing.
Past the emotions, we are also thinking beings. We feel, but we always connect our emotions to what is occurring right then and right there in your present life. We have past experiences, to be sure, that somehow mingle into our current experiences, but our current experiences are action moments shaped by the hear and now…what you have now and the choices you make now in your world.
With the past set aside, often our “stormy experiences” stem from our need to express how we are feeling, what our needs are, and our hopes are. Feeling vulnerable to expression of ones deepest desires and thoughts can grip the very heart of a person who spends much of their time defending who they are or, on the opposite side of the tracks, who they feel they need to be in order to be validated by loved ones, peers, co-workers and the like. But, like the cartoon character Popeye said “I am what I am and that’s all that I am.” You do not need to prove yourself to anyone, you just need to be. To live, to feel, to express, and to reach out to those you love when that ground begins to shake. To live honestly, to express honestly... there is no better way to live than this.
A client of mine has had quite a bit of a challenge communicating with her son. Her son is 14 and going through some changes, seeking his ground for independence. With her frustration, confusion, and sadness over the strain in their relationship, what began to surface was the fact that her son was growing up and she was feeling her role as a loving mother and caretaker was being swept away under the carpet, leaving her missing the open and carefree experiences she once had with her child. The son, on the other hand, did not understand why his mother was so frustrated with him. He was living his life, doing his schoolwork, and for all practical purposes, conducting himself as any typical teenager.
Ah, the teenage years. Well, when the mother and son sat down in my office and talked, the mother revealed her need to be more a part of her son’s world and that with him growing up it appeared that he did not need her as he once did. She explained that she missed spending time with him and wanted to be able to take in a movie or play Play Station games as they once did before the school season started and his relationships began to build once again with his peers. The son stated that with all the homework that was being given, after he finished his schoolwork all he wanted to do was go to his room and read and watch a little TV before he went to sleep. In reality, he missed having fun with his Mom and siblings as much as his Mom missed spending those qu
A marriage or any other relationship whether it be a friendship or intimate relationship between two people can only endure if it has love flowing through it. Today’s marriages are failing at record levels in the western world, recent statistics show that in the United States alone that almost half of marriages there end in divorce. Marriages cannot endure without love and it seems that the world is lacking a lot of love today. Jesus Christ predicted that in the last days “the love of many would wax cold” (Matthew 24:12). It certainly seems like the love of many is waxing cold if we look upon today’s world. With all the divorces and broken families in today’s world, it seems as though things are getting worse and worse and that the world is in a famine for love, love is lacking and we are in a drought for it.Many women often get their hearts broken when
Let me reach out to you now and state that this simply does not have to occur. At the very core of who we are, we know we are emotional human beings who feel every imaginable feeling... we feel. I can smile a bit here because I have, not too long ago, told my husband this. We feel happiness, joy, anger, love, passion, sadness, discomfort, contentment... we feel. But when the wheel starts turning and you find you are going in a direction that is not being recovered quickly... the shadows cast upon you have turned from grey to black with no looking back…it’s time to put those emotions in check with the reality of what you are truly experiencing.
Past the emotions, we are also thinking beings. We feel, but we always connect our emotions to what is occurring right then and right there in your present life. We have past experiences, to be sure, that somehow mingle into our current experiences, but our current experiences are action moments shaped by the hear and now…what you have now and the choices you make now in your world.
With the past set aside, often our “stormy experiences” stem from our need to express how we are feeling, what our needs are, and our hopes are. Feeling vulnerable to expression of ones deepest desires and thoughts can grip the very heart of a person who spends much of their time defending who they are or, on the opposite side of the tracks, who they feel they need to be in order to be validated by loved ones, peers, co-workers and the like. But, like the cartoon character Popeye said “I am what I am and that’s all that I am.” You do not need to prove yourself to anyone, you just need to be. To live, to feel, to express, and to reach out to those you love when that ground begins to shake. To live honestly, to express honestly... there is no better way to live than this.
A client of mine has had quite a bit of a challenge communicating with her son. Her son is 14 and going through some changes, seeking his ground for independence. With her frustration, confusion, and sadness over the strain in their relationship, what began to surface was the fact that her son was growing up and she was feeling her role as a loving mother and caretaker was being swept away under the carpet, leaving her missing the open and carefree experiences she once had with her child. The son, on the other hand, did not understand why his mother was so frustrated with him. He was living his life, doing his schoolwork, and for all practical purposes, conducting himself as any typical teenager.
Ah, the teenage years. Well, when the mother and son sat down in my office and talked, the mother revealed her need to be more a part of her son’s world and that with him growing up it appeared that he did not need her as he once did. She explained that she missed spending time with him and wanted to be able to take in a movie or play Play Station games as they once did before the school season started and his relationships began to build once again with his peers. The son stated that with all the homework that was being given, after he finished his schoolwork all he wanted to do was go to his room and read and watch a little TV before he went to sleep. In reality, he missed having fun with his Mom and siblings as much as his Mom missed spending those q
An MLM article for every MLMer: Building a Multi Level Marketing (MLM) organization takes time before time will build your MLM. You need to work your MLM before your MLM will work for you. You must learn that consistency makes a winner before you can be a consistent winner. You must realize your goals before goals can be realized. You must be able to see the winning line to line yourself up with the winners.Most people who fail in MLM fail by only walking halfway down the road of success, only to return to the starting line of a different MLM or sadly never to start again. They lack the vision and in most cases a simple knowledge of the beauty and power of MLM. Similar to seeing a glorious brick home, but failing to see the individual bricks it took to build that home.A beautiful brick home does not appear over night. It all starts with a person w
Past the emotions, we are also thinking beings. We feel, but we always connect our emotions to what is occurring right then and right there in your present life. We have past experiences, to be sure, that somehow mingle into our current experiences, but our current experiences are action moments shaped by the hear and now…what you have now and the choices you make now in your world.
With the past set aside, often our “stormy experiences” stem from our need to express how we are feeling, what our needs are, and our hopes are. Feeling vulnerable to expression of ones deepest desires and thoughts can grip the very heart of a person who spends much of their time defending who they are or, on the opposite side of the tracks, who they feel they need to be in order to be validated by loved ones, peers, co-workers and the like. But, like the cartoon character Popeye said “I am what I am and that’s all that I am.” You do not need to prove yourself to anyone, you just need to be. To live, to feel, to express, and to reach out to those you love when that ground begins to shake. To live honestly, to express honestly... there is no better way to live than this.
A client of mine has had quite a bit of a challenge communicating with her son. Her son is 14 and going through some changes, seeking his ground for independence. With her frustration, confusion, and sadness over the strain in their relationship, what began to surface was the fact that her son was growing up and she was feeling her role as a loving mother and caretaker was being swept away under the carpet, leaving her missing the open and carefree experiences she once had with her child. The son, on the other hand, did not understand why his mother was so frustrated with him. He was living his life, doing his schoolwork, and for all practical purposes, conducting himself as any typical teenager.
Ah, the teenage years. Well, when the mother and son sat down in my office and talked, the mother revealed her need to be more a part of her son’s world and that with him growing up it appeared that he did not need her as he once did. She explained that she missed spending time with him and wanted to be able to take in a movie or play Play Station games as they once did before the school season started and his relationships began to build once again with his peers. The son stated that with all the homework that was being given, after he finished his schoolwork all he wanted to do was go to his room and read and watch a little TV before he went to sleep. In reality, he missed having fun with his Mom and siblings as much as his Mom missed spending those q
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A client of mine has had quite a bit of a challenge communicating with her son. Her son is 14 and going through some changes, seeking his ground for independence. With her frustration, confusion, and sadness over the strain in their relationship, what began to surface was the fact that her son was growing up and she was feeling her role as a loving mother and caretaker was being swept away under the carpet, leaving her missing the open and carefree experiences she once had with her child. The son, on the other hand, did not understand why his mother was so frustrated with him. He was living his life, doing his schoolwork, and for all practical purposes, conducting himself as any typical teenager.
Ah, the teenage years. Well, when the mother and son sat down in my office and talked, the mother revealed her need to be more a part of her son’s world and that with him growing up it appeared that he did not need her as he once did. She explained that she missed spending time with him and wanted to be able to take in a movie or play Play Station games as they once did before the school season started and his relationships began to build once again with his peers. The son stated that with all the homework that was being given, after he finished his schoolwork all he wanted to do was go to his room and read and watch a little TV before he went to sleep. In reality, he missed having fun with his Mom and siblings as much as his Mom missed spending those q
Labor Day has come and passed. To some this means an extra day of rest and a long weekend to travel to distant places. What does Labor Day mean to you?For so many people it means that work ceases for twenty-four hours. There will be time for fun and recreation. Many will return to work more tired and run down had they not had a day of rest. Yet all this leads to the fact that people have forgotten what Labor Day means. People have lost the real sense of dignity of an honest days work. They see no real meaning in their jobs. All they look forward to is the weekly pay check.God says, "Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you; learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light." (Matthew 11:28-30)
Ah, the teenage years. Well, when the mother and son sat down in my office and talked, the mother revealed her need to be more a part of her son’s world and that with him growing up it appeared that he did not need her as he once did. She explained that she missed spending time with him and wanted to be able to take in a movie or play Play Station games as they once did before the school season started and his relationships began to build once again with his peers. The son stated that with all the homework that was being given, after he finished his schoolwork all he wanted to do was go to his room and read and watch a little TV before he went to sleep. In reality, he missed having fun with his Mom and siblings as much as his Mom missed spending those quality moments with him! After all was said and done, we discovered evenings were really rushed for all family members and steps were taken to recommit to family dinners where quality time could be experienced, where weekends were given “family time” priority instead of running errands and feeling rushed during Saturdays and Sundays with Mom and Dad partnering in with the son to become more in tuned with what his scholastic life was like.
Open up and share your heart with those you love. Feel free to be who you are and do not apologize when you do. Yes, we feel all emotions. Take the time needed to understand why you experience those stormy moments and reach out instead of retreating into your corner of the world. Often, a hug, just one moment of connecting with the eyes and honest words expressing your feelings can bring the relationship back on track in the wink of an eye.
Steps to Calm the Stormy Seas
1. Breathe- the challenge is not going to swallow you up. There is an answer looming in the distance, reach for it.
2. Remember that a loved one is not the enemy. If you love them and feel any emotion for them, they are worth the time it takes to talk…be true to yourself for yourself and for the person whom you desire to reconnect with.
3. Hug. Close connection is important. If not a moment to hug, how about holding hands or quietly going for a walk? The last thing you want to do is walk away in anger or give the cold shoulder…remember, you love the person no matter what you are experiencing.
4. Communicate with honesty. Your feelings are signals. Only you know what is truly causing the storm. Express what troubles your heart and soul. Ask questions, listen for answers and move forward towards reconciliation.
5. Be able to receive honest communication. Allow communication to flow both ways. Move forward towards solutions; never let the storm rise again once you are on the path towards calming the waters. Be committed to getting to the heart of the matter because you love and care for the other. Your strength and determination out of love will help the other reach out to you in turn.
6. When the storm subsides, move forward. Moments are wasted recalling storms…move forward to a brighter and fulfilling future.
Remember, I am here to help you any way I can….live in the present, move towards the future and know storms come and go, but love lives forever.
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